"Some Nights" Fun./Walk off the Earth

It's been awhile since I've had a song inspire me to write and last night I stumbled upon one that really struck home to me in so many different ways this post could turn into a novel.

I found this song when I was checking to see if one of my favorite YouTube bands, Walk off the Earth, had uploaded any new videos. I was so enthralled by the video I found that I watched the video three times before I finally scolded myself: "knock it off, go to sleep, you've got responsibilities after all!" Then I watched it a fourth time.

The song this time is a cover of Fun.'s song "Some Nights" and here's the video:

The video itself makes me incredibly happy. First off, they featured Julia Nunes who I also found on YouTube at some point and her videos are so much fun. Second, the talent that is displayed in this group of people is truly inspiring (this group is constantly blowing my mind!). Look at what they did with not much more than their voices?  It makes me want to create. I want to pick up guitar and write a song! Or... I don't know, write a blog post! Har-de-harhar. Or bake cookies. (Which I did, they're chocolate chip and delicious.)

Excuse my tangent for a moment but I'm going to admit something to you all. I have a hard time doing "creative" things because I'm kind of a perfectionist. If I can't pick up a guitar and beat the devil in a battle for my soul that very second, I don't want to start learning. I hold myself to insane standards when it comes to being creative and I am afraid of failing at it miserably. I think I need to work on that.

The song itself has so much that I love about it. It's so freaking catchy that I keep singing along even though I can barely carry a tune. Also, singing while wearing headphones is always a bad idea when you can't sing. Volume control is just gone when you can't hear yourself. The way the beats change and, specifically in the Walk off the Earth video the voices blend and it's just amazing to me.

Then there's the lyrics. Holy crap, the lyrics! They speak to me! I feel like the song could cover almost any number of situations.

     

"What do I stand for? Oh what do I stand for?
Most nights, I don't know anymore"

Isn't that one problem everyone faces? Not knowing who they are, what they stand for, what they want to be. I feel like I have a fairly strong grasp of who I am and where I am going but I am only 23 years old so I keep learning things. And I find changes in myself all. the. time. Who would have thought that was possible?

"Well some nights, I wish that this all would end
'Cause I could use some friends for a change"

It's like they're inside my head! I have very few close relationships and I'm terrible about keeping in touch with those people I do form close relationships with. It's my own fault but that doesn't change the fact that sometimes I go into a "lonesome diva" phase. 

"So this is it? I sold my soul for this?
Washed my hands of that for this?

I miss my mom and dad for this?" 

I am an introvert (some might say recluse) and sometimes I get a lot of anxiety about social situations so I crawl inside my little world and I don't do anything. While sometimes it's healing for me, other times I take it too damn far and I get depressed and think "so this is it?" when I look around myself.

So, I guess I have a few more things I need to work on and though I've known it this song was thought-provoking for me.

And I could go on and on about it but I guess to sum it up: I LOVE THIS SONG. Excuse me while I go and listen to it for at least the 50th time today.

((Just an FYI - I love the original version of this song too and have added Fun. to my list of favorite bands. The Fun. video is extremely powerful and I think displays exactly what the song is about.))

The songs that can pull me out of a bad mood.

I like to say I suffer from chronic mood swings. I think from now on I will just I have "CMS." Which I guess I could just call PMS but then all the feminists get their panties in a wad because "it's what guys use to belittle a woman's bad mood." But frankly, I think CMS works just as well. One of the things that amazes me about music is that it can alter my mood pretty freaking rapidly. For awhile after my divorce, I couldn't hear the song "Lips of an Angel" by Hinder without wanting to punch out my radio. I lived that, asshole, your song sucks! But most of the time music can change my mood positively.

For example, when I'm feeling irrationally sad I like to listen to this song:

I love this song for so many reasons. First, the guy is incredibly talented. His voice just puts me in a good mood. Second, the guy is pretty freaking adorable. And finally, just the beat behind the song. It's something I always feel like groovin' to even though I couldn't dance to save my life. I've listened to the original of this song and can't stand it. It's way too slow! But the way Walk off the Earth fiddled with it makes it perfect to pull me out of a bad mood.

I'm actually just posting that video because frankly I'm having a hard time working up the nerve to talk about the real song I wanted to write about - and the story that goes along with it. In fact, I really wish I had a beer right now so that maybe I'd stop holding my breath every few seconds. I said I suffer from CMS but I don't really get depressed all that often.. More often than not I get really, really angry. And when I get that angry I like to listen to Otep.

This song in particular really helps me calm down. I know you're probably thinking "what the effing eff? this is some seriously angry music. How could it possibly HELP you?" And the answer is not a simple one. If you've ever listen to this album there's a song in the beginning titled "Tortured." It deals with molestation. And the first time I ever heard the first song on this album I realized how much a lot of the music on the album as a whole was going to speak to me. I was molested as a child, twice. As I type this I feel sick and I'm losing my nerve to actually post this.

I can't remember how old I was. But I can remember every. Single. Detail. I remember what they look like, what I was wearing, where I was. And I hate it. I was, and am, angry about it. Why would someone I trust do that? Where were the people who were supposed to be my parents? I've gotten a lot better over the years in controlling my anger but sometimes I have days where I  become completely irrational and I can't stop yelling.

I think the reason that Otep makes my anger ebb is because the lady fucking gets me. Pardon the language. When I listen to Otep, I feel like the singer is able to say exactly how I wish I could express myself when my anger builds up. Some of the lyrics from the song I posted above are exactly how I feel:

"I'm failing
I'm angry

I use my fear
to empower my hate" 

Other songs on the album do the same for me. I can just relate to what she's saying, what she must have been feeling as she wrote it. I love that about music. Some songs are so incredible, to me, that they can easily alter my mood. And while it's not always positive, like the Hinder song, I feel like being able to listen to music when I'm sad or upset and feeling better is awesome.

I'm going to admit that I wrote this post weeks ago but I had a hard time proof reading it so I didn't want to post it. Even now I'm having a hard time just hitting the publish button. I'm going to do it but I think I need to explain why I'm scared: I'm afraid of being pitied. I'm afraid people will think they can excuse certain behaviors from me because I haven't had it easy. I don't want that, at all. So, please don't. [Also, this post was hard for me to proof read so please forgive my mistakes.]

"Almost Lover" and an Introduction

I don't know how to start this. I really don't. I've struggled for a long time on just the title of my blog. I have a bunch of ideas for posts. But the introductory post has stumped me every time I've tried to write one. This is the third one I've done, actually, and each one of those three has been completely different from the first.

I don't know what to say because I'm not good at telling my own story. You want to hear about my daughter? I'm full of stories and you probably can't get me to shut up. You want to know how I ended up where I am today? All I can say is I've tried. I'd never claim to be a good mother and I would never claim to be anything exceptional. I've tried to do the best I can.

I have a story to tell but I don't think I can tell it all at once and I don't think I could do it without some help. So, what I decided to do was to use music. I love music even though I can't sing or play any instruments. Music means a lot to me whether it be because the lyrics express something I can't or the tune just makes me do a little dance. I enjoy every genre and I want to discover more. 


So, how do I introduce myself when I can't even fill out the profile for this site? I don't know. Instead, I think I'll tell you about what's been on my mind most often lately and I'll first let a song tell you:

This song is incredible. Not just because of her voice because of what she says. It explains exactly how I feel about the idea of "love." I think the best way to describe it is that I'm "disenchanted." As most of you won't know, I'm divorced. I got married when I was 17 and while most of you are probably already building up a judgement I thought it was love. I was pregnant at the time and I was ready to be a wife and mom and have a sense of family. 

However, my now ex-husband was not. I won't go into the details of the story yet suffice to say I am now 22 years old and divorced. I have dated and been in relationships since and everyone of them - in some way - has said they loved me.


Maybe I have some crazy idea of love that doesn't really exist. I feel like there are two core pieces to being in love: acceptance and loyalty. I have never witnessed either. But maybe those two core pieces are what I have set up as standards because they are what I have seen falter the fastest in my relationships. It's possible that love has many more pieces I can't pin down.


It's not just my past relationships that have jaded me. I am the kind of person that learns from her own mistakes and others as well. I am a people watcher. I have seen people say they love each other and then act in ways in which I have to think "this is love?"


I want to fall in love and I want to fall in love hard. I want someone to care about me so much that the thought of me dying would feel like their heart was ripping from their chest. And I want to feel that way in return. I think, though, I may need to change my perception of love.